“Women do not take longer to orgasm than men; The majority of the women in Kinsey’s study masturbated to orgasm within four minutes, similar to the men in this study.”
- Shere Hite
The female orgasm is the peak of a woman’s sexual arousal. It is the involuntary rhythmic contracting of the lower pelvic muscles, and sometimes causes spasms in other parts of the body, such as the limbs. The female orgasm doesn’t normally produce any fluid like a man’s, but some women experience what is called “female ejaculation,” a gushing of fluid upon orgasm.
The result of an orgasm is usually a feeling of relaxation, thought to be connected to the release of prolactin into the bloodstream. Oxytocin, another chemical released during arousal and orgasm, is thought to be responsible for pleasant feelings during and after sex, including the sense of feeling emotionally close to your partner. Scientists are trying to figure out if this chemical is responsible for human partnering habits.
A female orgasm is brought into being via sexual stimulation of some kind. A high percentage of women find it difficult to orgasm with penetration alone, and require clitoral stimulation. This specific stimulation can be achieved in many ways; for example, in the missionary position, the man’s pubic bone and hair may stimulate the clitoris enough to bring about an orgasm.
Every woman is unique in what brings her to orgasm.
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Some women find it very difficult to orgasm. This can be due to a variety of reasons, however, the main one is that the touch just hasn’t been in the right place, whether it’s from penetrative sex, or from hands, the mouth or some other object. The female orgasm, much ignored in the past as women were not recognized as sexual beings, has been brought into the light and more attention is now focused on the sexual pleasure of women.
The female orgasm has been made out to be the be-all-and-end-all of a sexual encounter. This pressure has encouraged men and women to get more creative in their sexual escapades, helping to ensure more orgasms. But because this doesn’t always work out the way it was intended, many women are still living their lives orgasmless, and their partners feel inadequate. Women are encouraged to masturbate on their own to learn what sort of touch brings them to orgasm most easily, then share this with their partners.
Female Orgasm Fact
Of 82% of women who said they masturbated in a survey conducted by Hite Research International, 95% could orgasm easily and regularly, whenever they wanted.
When it comes to the female orgasm, most guys are confused. This is understandable considering that many men are clueless regarding the different types of orgasms and stimulations that can be given, not to mention if a certain part of the vagina has to be manipulated in order to give a woman an earth-shattering orgasm.
When a woman orgasms, regardless of which area of her body you’re manipulating, her body physically reacts in the same way. During an orgasm, she feels:
- stimulation in her clitoris
- her heart rate, blood pressure and breathing increase
- tension builds within her pelvis
- muscles contract throughout her body, especially in the vagina, uterus, rectum, and pelvic floor
- tension is released upon orgasm
Believe it or not, it is possible for women to get what is often called “blue balls” in men. As you know by now, the clitoris and penis are remarkably similar after conception, but males go on to develop penises.
If a woman gets incredibly turned on, her clitoris, like the penis, becomes engorged with blood. If the blood isn’t released via orgasm, she will experience discomfort — just as men do.
So when you tease her, you build up awesome tension, and when she finally orgasms, it will be an explosion of release. Keep in mind, however, that roughly 26% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm. And usually, it’s her own mental block that keeps her from reaching orgasm — it’s not you.
It was Sigmund Freud who first suggested that there were two types of female orgasm. However, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey refuted the claim and his view was that there is only one type of female orgasm.
Others sexperts claim that women can have three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal and blended. But considering the latter is literally the other two put together, I wouldn’t necessarily classify it as a type.
So who’s right when it comes to female orgasms?
However, clinical studies prove that Kinsey was right. Most sexologists now agree that an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter what area of a woman’s genitalia or body is being stimulated.
Nonetheless, here are the two areas of a woman’s vagina that can lead to the most satisfying female orgasm:
The clitoris‘ only function is to provide pleasure for women. Researchers have not been able to discover any other reason for its existence, which is fine by us. As well, keep in mind that, because the clitoris is much easier to find, female orgasm is usually achieved via clitoral stimulation.
Inside the vagina, you can find the infamous G-spot, or the Grafenberg spot. The G-spot is located on the front wall (toward the navel) of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix. Theory dictates that the G-spot can be either a bundle of nerves coming from the clitoris or a gland (or series of glands) that produces lubrication.
Usually, after one orgasm, guys need to rest (unless you’re one of those lucky guys who can achieve multiples), but it’s believed that women can experience three tempos of orgasm, which include the single orgasm, the serial multiple orgasm and the sequential multiple orgasm.
With the single orgasm, a woman experiences one rush of pleasure. The orgasm can last anywhere from a few seconds to a minute.
Although most women claim that they cannot achieve this awesome ride, a multiple orgasm occurs when several orgasms are had in a row — that is, one directly after another.
Sequential orgasms occur in a sequence that separates each orgasm by a few minutes or so. Many women describe it as a roller coaster ride.
how to give it to her
Many women claim that reaching orgasm is more difficult via penetration than it is via stimulation of the clitoris. As well, when it comes to vaginal stimulation of any area, most women agree that fingers are the preferred tool.
Keep in mind that any type of sexual stimulation can lead a woman to orgasm. And although there are some women who can will themselves to orgasm without even being touched, it is rare.
Massage, foreplay, direct stimulation, and even talking can make a woman reach orgasm. Most women, however, find that direct stimulation of the clitoris is the easiest way for them to climax. So use your tongue, your fingers, even rub your penis against it, and she might climax.
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